Why do you need divorce coaching?
Once upon a time a coach was one helped you with sports, nowadays there are all types of coaches, life coaches, career coaches, confidence coaches, success coaches and now divorce coaches, to name a few. Everyone faces challenges in different facets of their lives and just don't know what to do. Coaching for those issues fills the gap between where you are and where you could be if you had the right help and tools. In divorce there are many issues to resolve from the minutiae to the larger issues and a divorce coach can help you navigate those matters. If you don't know what to expect during the divorce process coaching can help you get organized and provide you with information with how divorce works, what to expect and strategize how to get from point A to point B with clarity. Clarity is important at this stage and it is what most people do not have during divorce because there are a lot of moving emotional parts that at times clashes with what you are supposed to be doing.
Divorce is hard and overwhelming, and it is hard to deal with both your emotions and the legality of your divorce at the same time. If you're planning on going it alone without an attorney or a divorce coach it can become a drain on your psyche and intimidating to navigate the legal process especially when dealing with supposed good people at their worst. There are also practical challenges in learning how to live without your ex, from doing chores that your ex used to do, socializing alone, budgeting (because now there will be a real budget if you have divorce attorney expenses), going back into the workforce, and coparenting and navigating the legal paperwork.
The emotional aspect of a divorce will wipe away any rationale you once had and transform you into someone you don't know. Together with a divorce coach you will develop a plan for each stage of the process with guidance for the emotional decisions, and how to respond to a spouse who is doing everything they can to emotionally harm you. I will help you focus on what really matters, because remember, your ex lived with you, knows your weaknesses and will do everything they can to 'taint your soul'. As one of my favorite quotes from my best friend Samuel Freeman goes..."In order to fight the devil you have to go to hell, and you may not come back". Don't lose yourself in the fight.
I will not be there to represent you in court or in any other legal capacity but I will guide you through the ups and downs of the divorce process. Nobody wants to get divorced, but if you have to go through the process go through it with the right support so you can come out on the other side prepared to succeed, and come out on the other side of divorce living the life you choose.
How does divorce coaching work?
We will begin the coaching relationship discussing the goals and aspirations that are most important to you. At first, your emotional survival may be all you can aim for, and it is a good beginning. As time goes on, your new sense of confidence and self esteem will guide your decisions with the legal matter of divorce.
As the client you are in charge, deciding the focus of each session. Each week we explore a topic of your choosing, looking at your struggles, what your ideal outcome would be and where you are feeling trapped. During the session you will develop clarity and the confidence to unearth the obstacles that are keeping you from moving forward. Finally you will create action plans to attain your goals.
You are guaranteed to feel more confident and empowered to handle both the issues at hand as well as your overall circumstances with a renewed inner strength.
Working with a divorce coach helps you to face the challenges of your situation and begin to embrace your life so that you can move with clarity to a future that was designed by you for you.
