About Me
I am a Divorce Coach and a Life Coach. I am also divorced and that process took around 4 years to complete. Needless to say when it was all said and done I thought my feelings would be the same as the paperwork, all said and done. That was not the case as I had struggled to come to terms with what had transpired during my rocky marriage, thoughts of what I could have done to stop the implosion, and struggling to understand my ex and his behavior during the divorce process. Although the divorce was my idea it did not change how it felt. I believed that if I initiated the divorce that I should feel less pain but that was far from the truth because although I knew my marriage was over, the pain was not dulled by who filed the paperwork first.
While I struggled to understand the divorce process I would go to attorney’s asking their legal opinion for custody and assets but I had no one to turn to for the emotional support that was necessary to help me deal with the business aspect of divorce. The last thing you want to do is go into an attorney’s office discussing what your ex did to mess up your life. They of course will listen but they are charging you for every minute you spend discussing things they cannot change. The emotional side and business side are intertwined so you should not go into divorce without help for the one but not for the other.
It took a while for me to understand my feelings and to forgive those I felt hurt me in order to be able to move on with my new life. When I started divorce coaching I was inspired by my own experience with divorce to create a strategy not out of fear or powerlessness but for my clients to make sound decisions, emotions aside in order to deal rationally with this major life transition. Divorce is an overwhelming experience and although having a solid support network is necessary at this time more than ever, family and friends can only give you part of what you need. They are naturally biased as your friends and family should be but with the help of a Divorce Coach you will keep your focus on what needs to be done in order for you to navigate the divorce process with your emotions in check.
The support of a Divorce Coach in my own divorce would have been extremely helpful even just to talk through my emotional state with someone without judgment. It was difficult to separate my emotional state from what needed to be done because although morally I may have been right, legally it didn’t make a difference. In time I was able to realize that my conduct and being true to myself was the most important thing to me, and that being honest, even during this time of turmoil, was what was best for me and my children.
I will help you to focus on what matters the most, and if your love for yourself and your children is more important than your hatred for your ex then you will be able to make skilled decisions that are not based on your emotional state. Decisions made during this time could potentially have a negative impact on your relationship with someone who, if you have children, will be in your life forever.
I work with anyone going through the divorce process but who want clarity and positivity as part of their experience. My clients are pre-divorce and happily married, going through the process of divorce to those who are transitioning to a new life after divorce. My job is to support my clients to be the best version of themselves during and after the process of divorce.
I will be there for you to make sure that decisions made at this time, are made with dignity, honesty and your integrity intact. What the other person decides to do is their business, my business will be making sure that you have no regrets with the decisions you made during this time.