Divorce Coaching is not a service that helps a couple break up their marriage. It is, however, a service that helps you get through the divorce process once you have made the decision to get divorced. Studies show that in the first year after divorce the wife’s standard of living drops almost 27% while the husband’s may increase as much as 10%. 75% of children with divorced parents live with the mother. 28% of children living with a divorced parent live in a household with an income level below the poverty line. Many factors combine to lower women’s standard of living after divorce. Child support may not be adequate to cover the true costs of child rearing, and she might have lost many important years of career growth, making it difficult for her to get back on her feet after divorce. As a result advance planning goes a long way. By familiarizing yourself with the financial pitfalls of divorce, you can save yourself a lot of heartbreak-and hassle- in the future.

Consider that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and most of us spent so much time, money and effort getting married that no one mentions divorce as a potential component of marriage. We typically talk kids, money, a house, career but not the ‘what if divorce happens,’ which unfortunately in this day and age seems more likely than owning a home or sometimes even having children. I believe it best to have some knowledge of divorce while you’re still in love with your partner so that if and when the thought of a split happens you’ll deal primarily with the emotions of the divorce and not the practical considerations of divorce. Even if divorce never happens, which is the ultimate goal, at least you’ll know where to begin.

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER

Getting divorced can be one of the most devastating and emotional times in your life. Whether you wanted the divorce or not the emotions are still there. You now venture into uncertainty, disappointment and anger surrounding this life-changing event. You question every thought, every action and every inaction. With this uncertainty there are deepening questions about your financial future, your children’s well-being, or over emphasizing your low self esteem. You may become fearful of an unknown future or begin to experience recurring conflict, stemming from old wounds that have not yet healed with your spouse. To have guidance and the advise of a Divorce Coach during this difficult time is invaluable. 

Amongst other things through Divorce Coaching you will be able to:

• Deal with the emotional aspects of your separation and divorce, including the pain, anger and fear that may surface at this difficult time.
• Regain self-confidence, and become empowered to deal with your divorce issues in a calm and clear manner.
• Learn to communicate effectively with your spouse and children to create peace and a co-parenting relationship that works.
• Set goals, short and long term, for your financial future including budgeting, saving and debt.